As young people embrace the Internet and other mobile communication technologies, bullying has manifested itself in a new and potentially more dangerous way - through cyber bullying.  Cyber bullying can generally be defined as sending or posting harmful or malicious messages or images through e-mail, instant messages, cell phones and websites.  It is emerging as one of the more challenging issues facing educators, since it has a direct impact on students but often occurs away from school property.

Examples of cyber bullying include:

• Sending cruel, vicious and sometimes threatening messages,
• Creating web sites that contain stories, cartoons, pictures and jokes ridiculing others,
• Posting pictures of classmates online with intent to embarrass them,
• Breaking into an e-mail account and sending vicious or embarrassing material to others,
• Engaging in IM (instant messaging) to trick another person into revealing sensitive or personal information and forwarding that information to others and
• Taking a picture of a person using a digital phone camera and sending that picture electronically to others without consent.

If you are the victim of a cyber bully:

• Don't reply to messages from cyber bullies.
• Tell an adult you know and trust.  Just as with any other kind of bullying, ignoring it often leads to escalation.
• If the bullying is occurring through text messaging, use call display or dial *69 to identify the phone number and have it tracked through your cell phone/pager service provider.
• Instant messages (e.g. yahoo instant messenger, Microsoft Messenger) are best handled by blocking messages from certain senders. 
• Bullies are likely to register for an anonymous e-mail account such as Hotmail, Yahoo or Gmail using a fake name. 
• If you receive threatening e-mail messages, instruct your e-mail program to block messages from that address.  Then inform your Internet Service Provider (ISP).
• If physical threats are made or the bullying escalates, inform your local police.
• Do not erase or delete messages from cyber bullies.  You don't have to read them, but keep them as evidence.  You may get similar messages from other accounts.  The police, your ISP and/or your telephone company can use these messages to help you. 
• If necessary, get a new phone number, account or e-mail address and give it out to only one person at a time.

Suggestions for Parents:

• Make sure your children understand how vast and public the Internet is.  Remind them that anything they post or send in a message is virtually available to be seen or read by anyone in the world. 
• Talk to your children about cyber bullying.  Make sure they understand what it is.  Let then know that cyber bullying is no less serious and unacceptable than other forms of bullying.  
• Set up the family computer in an open, common area so that you can monitor what your child is sending and receiving.
• Inform your Internet Service Provider (ISP) or cell phone service provider of any abuse.  Although it can take a lot of time and effort to get Providers to respond and deal with your complaints about cyber bullying, it is necessary in order to try to stop it from re-occurring.
• Purchase software that can help track activity.  There are parental controls that filter both IM and chat rooms.

* Re-printed with the permission of the Ontario Principals' Council